Monday, January 7, 2013

The Jealous Boyfriend

Don't you just hate it when your boyfriend starts to keep on calling, asa ka na?  kinsay imong kauban?  ngano wala ka ni tubag sa cellphone?  ngano wala ka ni text? and worst of all, he suddenly appears out of nowhere and "surprises" you.  Gi sundan kanaman diay niya.


Slight jealousy is actually acceptable.  Some suggest that it can make the relationship better and even spicier.  We sometimes want our boyfriend to notice us.  We want some attention from him, feel needed and important in his life.  If your boyfriend stops becoming jealous, you would feel unimportant.  Murag gi pabayaan kananalang niya.

On the extreme side, too much jealousy can be destructive.  Too much attention can be suffocating.  Imagine your boyfriend starts interrogating you like a criminal.  Asa ka gikan?  Ngano wala ka ning tawag?  Kinsa to imong ka estorya?  Do you really have to explain every single detail to your boyfriend?  

I know of someone whose boyfriend hijacked his Facebook account and started sending messages to all his friends and investigated them like they were suspects.  Grabe kaayo.  I was shocked what his boyfriend did.  It was an invasion of his privacy.  His boyfriend was becoming a psychopath, buang na giyud.  These are the type of people when you break up with them, they will not accept defeat and will follow you like a shadow.  Magbantay mo aning klase nga tao kay basin naay plano nga daotan himoon niya sa imo.

A relationship is based on trust.  If you do not trust your boyfriend enough then there is something wrong.  Try to communicate, talk with each other, and gain each others trust.  If nothing works, then it is time to say goodbye.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Short Film : Triple Standard

Am I straight or gay?  Self realization of a homophobic guy.  This is a perfect film for the so called "trippers".  Accept who you are!


Saturday, January 5, 2013

Film : A Home at the End of the World

The film is about 3 friends tangled in a love triangle.  There is the gay guy, the bisexual stud and the straight girl.  The main characters are played by Hollywood celebrities Colin Farrell and Robin Wright.



Thursday, January 3, 2013

Tips to Avoid Getting Swindled in CDO

There have been incidents of robbery or fraud in Cagayan de Oro involving gay people.

To avoid getting swindled or robbed, here are some advise or tips to follow :

1. When meeting someone online, check their Facebook account or if not see each other through webcam. Today, most people have Facebook or webcams, so if that person does not have one, that is a warning sign.

2. If the person you meet online wants to meet with you immediately in your hotel room or apartment, that is a warning sign. Meet this person first in a public area or through webcam. If you do not like the person you are meeting, you can make an excuse and leave the place or simply turn off the webcam.
 

3. If you bring these strangers to your hotel room or apartment/home, make sure the hotel has a CCTV camera and the guy should register or surrender an ID to the hotel receptionist. Better yet, leave your valuables with the hotel receptionist for safe keeping and instruct them never to give it to anyone except you. Take a photo of the guy using your phone and send it to friends. If at home, make sure someone is at home to assist you in case of emergencies.
 

4. Gay swindlers are now in social networking sites.  If the profile photo is not the same with the actual person you meet, that is a warning sign.  Make an excuse and leave immediately.  Do not anymore entertain them.


5. If someone asks you for a night out with his so called "friends and cousins", that is a warning sign. You might end up paying all of the drinks and even more. Sometimes you go out in a date, only to find out that his "cousin" will join you later. If this happens, make an excuse and leave!
  These swindlers sometimes operate in pairs or groups.

6. When in a motel, if the guy insists that you take a shower first, this is a warning sign. This is an opportunity for these swindlers to take your belongings and even your clothes.  If you shower, take your clothes with you inside the bathroom and lock the door.
 


7.  If you meet someone new and that guy wants to have sex with you, ask that person, are you a call boy?  Some of these guys would not tell you that they are call boys.  After sex they would suddenly ask money from you, even though you have not talked about it.

8.  If a gay swindler threatens you that he will create a scene or "mag eskandalo" if you do not give your belongings, you should reply....GO AHEAD! PAG ESKANDALO.  These swindlers are just bluffing.  They do not really want to create a scene or else they will get involved in it and  their identity exposed.

Share this with friends! If you have been a victim of these swindlers, REPORT them to the Police!

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

New Years Resolution?

I am getting tired of making new years resolution.  Most if not all the time it does not happen.  I usually make 3 new years resolution but I guess this year I will make one and really make it happen.  What is my new years resolution in 2013? To get active physically and mentally.  2012 was dull year for me.  Time to spice up 2013!  To everyone, Happy New Year and I wish you the best.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Happy New Year 2013!

As we bid goodbye to 2012, I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for supporting this blog.  It has been a wonderful year for DiscreetBai.  Salamat sa inyong tanan!

Happy New Year to everyone!  Wishing you peace and prosperity!